Questions, questions, Mono and Polyam Fam. Relationships can be such an enigma … Riddle me this, riddle me that, what polyam queries will you ask?
Moreso than in amost previous episodes we stay off topic – but our topic is on rules this week. I guess we should have made a RULE to stay on topic. HA!! NOT! Join us anyway to see how and if rules can help or hinder your relationships.
#Don’tBeaDick is what we said we were going to tagline this episode. Basically, we bounced around and explained the ways that polyamory is the polar opposite of cheating and take you on a ride with us in and around, up and down and back again through our collective rabbit holes.
[TRIGGER WARNING] : Suicide, death, sadness, mental illness, mental health, grieving, self-harm, trauma, depression, loss of child.
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Our son, who you know as Gelt, has/…had (we still don’t know how we’re supposed to say that)… a name. His name is John. We debated about having an episode about this at all – about talking about it at all – about anything at all – but, honestly, if we had to fake a pushing of some sort of other episode out right now, we couldn’t bring ourselves to do it – and we don’t know when we – if we – will ever quite be back to our old chipper selves. So, we did what we have promised you all along and kept it poly real – because this is real life. Though we still hope it’s just a nightmare – but we have lived too many horrible days of this process to have that question any longer. If more people discussed the uncomfortable things – the horrible things – the unmentionables… If they could muster the strength and lift their crying eyes off their pillows and tell their truths through the pain and the tears and if more people could just sit and listen – REALLY listen, we really feel the stigma would go down and awareness and more means to help those who are suffering would also improve. Through this episode, we snotted all over our microphones, held each other’s hands, took quite a few breaks, and mustered up all the strength we could, and made ourselves discuss the most horrific event we have faced or probably ever will – our son’s suicide. Grab your tissues and grieve with us on this episode where we discuss the loss of a brilliant light to this world – our son, our other children’s sibling. He took his own life January 16th of this year at 21 years old. He was so much to so many. He lost his battle with depression. Our lives are shattered.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Crisis Text Line
741-741 (United States)
85258 (United Kingdom)
Survivors of Suicide
The Trevor Project
LGBTQ Help line
National Runaway Safeline
Breakups. Complicated. We said “complicated” a lot in this episode. Why? Well, it’s a great word to describe what can be a hellacious experience for any relationship dynamic. Join us as we get vulnerable and keep it very poly-real while still managing to have some fun. Join us in this week’s episode at Heartbreak Hotel on Breaking Up.
Everybody and their aunts want to warn you and tell you about all of the “red flags.” Understandably, they are looking out for you. Many times though, we forget about the “green flags.” Knowing what they are and the weight they bare against each other can help you make more informed decisions.
Join us in this episode where we discuss GREEN FLAGS and other miscellaneous topics (as usual).
Red flags can lead to a lot of long nights. We’ll take you on a wonky carpet ride through the silly and serious flags to be on the lookout for when it comes to those you choose to have as part of your life path.
One of the biggest blessings of being polyam or having a blended family is the rainbow of differences each person brings to the table, and with it, their experiences and pieces of their hearts and souls. Holidays hold even more significance in the hearts of those we love. In this episode we discuss what the benefits are of being open to discovering what the holidays mean to your loved ones and then experiencing it with them and through their eyes.
We were overjoyed when our kiddos got excited when we asked them if they would like to be interviewed. We all crammed in the closet and they opened up and lent us their experiences and insight on the pros and cons of being a polyam kid for the holidays.
Are you’re holiday get-togethers a bit frosty? Are you ho ho horrified about the thought of seeing certain people? In this episode, we discuss making healthy decisions regarding the company you keep, coping mechanisms and techniques and other ways to make sure that whatever you’re celebrating is as holly-jolly as you’d like it to be.